Finding barefoot girls is one thing, but what do you do when you
actually do find one?
You need to do something to make sure that she doesn't just
vanish like something out of a dream. You need to take some
kind of action to approach, meet and attract her. And you only
get one chance...
So, what do you do?
Well, obviously, this question has no easy answer. Through my
years of study, however, I have put together a list of the best
material for helping you learn what to do to make every interaction
you have with a woman as successful as it can possibly be.
The first thing you must do is accept that success with women has
more to do with who you are than what you do. So, the best
thing you can do starting out is to begin learning how to become an
inherently interesting and attractive man. The following link
will get you started on that path.
Being able to attract women to you is at the heart of ultimate
success. All the gimmicks, tricks and pick-up lines in the book
can't help you if you really aren't all that interesting. Being
inherently attractive, however, can get you places even when your other
actions would seem counterproductive.
The best part is that it doesn't have anything to do with looks or
money. Any man can learn to attract women more effectively.
So, before you read any further,
click here to get your foundation on
becoming an attractive man.
"Meanwhile, at the Hall of Justice..."
Okay, now. You've downloaded and read
David DeAngelo's Double-Your-Dating
e-Book. You have begun to make the kinds of deep,
lasting, personal changes that are required to become an attractive
man. But, what do you do in the meanwhile?
Suppose that you run across your barefoot dream girl in the
next few days when you are still just beginning your
personal transformation. What do you do then?
Well, there's a phrase in personal development that will help
you get through this. That phrase is: "Fake it 'til you make
An Important Lesson
I learned a very important lesson from a friend of mine a few years
ago. At the time, I was just starting out on this exciting
journey of self-improvement myself. But, even then, the message
We were talking about my inability to initiate an uninvited touch
on a woman. She told me this:
"Women need physical affection."
She also said:
"If you touch a woman, and you do it with confidence, she won't know
that you're terrified inside. She can't tell."
This is the heart of the "Fake it 'til you make it" approach.
Become an Action Hero
Have you ever thought about why people go see action movies? Or
what makes an action hero an action hero?
An action hero is not called an "action hero" because he just happens
to be the star of an action film. He is called an "action hero"
because he takes action.
This is why people go see action movies. They like to see
action. No one wants to go see a movie about
people doing nothing all day long, getting the same results as always,
and having nothing change.
People watch action movies because of the actions the characters
take. They want to live vicariously through the heroes lives of
adventure and excitement which they don't believe themselves capable
What they don't realize is that the only thing standing between them
and the action hero lives they want is the action that they take.
Watch the movie "Shaun of the Dead" for a great example of this
concept. The main character, Shaun, is basically a loser.
He has a low-level management job at a retail store, his
girlfriend dumps him, and his best friend is an unemployed mooch.
And yet, he has a movie made about him. Why?
Because he does something. He takes action.
And his story turns out to be really good!
So, the lesson here is, whatever the situation, you are going to
appear a lot more interesting and get a lot more rewarding results
if you just take action. It doesn't have to be
perfect - even James Bond flubs up every once in a while - but just
by doing something you put yourself in a much better
position to succeed.
Adopt the mentality that you are the hero in your own action film,
and the world is waiting for you to take the action that's going to
bring about the happy ending. When other people are standing
around wondering what to do, you step forward and do it.
That's what being an action hero is all about.
You Can't Lose
Continuing this action hero analogy a little bit further, there is
a very good reason (besides having the screenwriter on his side) that
James Bond is so successful.
It's because he knows he is.
James Bond enters every situation with the knowledge that it's going
to go his way. He doesn't even consider the possibility that it
might not (which it often doesn't). He just goes in acting like
he knows exactly what's going to happen, and that it's going to be
exactly what he wants.
Now, this attitude allows him to cope even when things don't go his
way. It simply becomes a new situation which, again, he believes
is going to turn out the way he wants it.
He may have gone in expecting to capture an enemy, but ends up
fleeing to avoid capture. Either way, he knows that he is going
to be successful in accomplishing his goal, whatever it might be at
Flexibility and an unwavering belief that things are going to go his
way allow him to overcome every obstacle.
There is no reason why you can't believe this, too. After all,
you are your own screenwriter. You write your own story, and you
are the hero.
Write the story so that you get the girl, and no one will be able to
4 Simple Steps
Now, back to this whole "Fake it 'til you make it" idea. It
doesn't help to believe you're unstoppable, if you don't know how
to get going in the first place.
Fortunately for you, I have spent the past four years studying how to
meet women. From all of the studying I have done - from all the
material I have read and all the gurus I've consulted - I have
determined that your success in meeting a woman in any situation
can be improved by taking just 4 simple actions.
- Talk to her
- Listen to her
- Touch her
That's it! You can study for years and learn all kinds of
routines and techniques and psychological games, but it all boils
down to those four things.
When you keep it real, you know what to expect, and it is just a
whole lot easier.
So, go out and start practicing. You never know when that
next barefoot beauty is going to pad silently into your life.
Follow these four steps, and you'll be ready!
Or, at the very least, you will appear to be. "Fake it
'til you make it." She can't tell the difference.
And, after a while, neither will you. :)
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