A lot of the stuff on these next few pages is going to seem like common sense, but I had to learn it.  So, I'm sharing it with you in case you need to learn it too.  :)

The first step in attracting a woman is to smile.

Duh.

No one wants to be around people who aren't any fun.  Show that you are fun.  Smile!

You would be amazed how much of a difference this one little thing can make.

A lot of people say that you should be aloof, distant...act like you don't care.  Supposedly, this creates a challenge.  She is meant to wonder why you aren't fawning over her like all of the other 10,000 guys who've hit on her in the last hour.  I believe that there are other ways to create a challenge, so my default approach is to smile.

Be relaxed and friendly.  Show that you're happy being in your own company.  The confidence and comfort you convey through a genuine smile are way more attractive than phony disdain.

Plus, happiness is contagious.  I'm sure you've seen it when somebody starts laughing, and then others start to laugh, even if they don't know what's funny.  The same thing works with smiles and happiness.

If you are smiling a genuine, happy smile, people won't care why you're happy.  They'll just want to be happy with you.

Another reason you should smile is that it is very hard to feel bad while smiling.  Try it.  There has actually been research done that indicates smiling causes you to be happy just as much as being happy causes you to smile.  The two functions support each other.

So, if you are struggling with approach anxiety, try smiling.  It will help your feelings of unease go away, and allow you to do what might otherwise have seemed difficult.

Social Proof

A smile can help you attract women for yet another, very important reason.

People want to enjoy themselves.  They want to be around other fun people.  This is true of both men and women.

By smiling and carrying the party with you wherever you go, you make friends with all kinds of people.  The more friends you have, the higher your social stock goes up.

This is a phenomenon known as "social proof."  It's basically like social testimonial advertising.

The more friends you have, of both men and women, the more obvious it is that you are a great guy to be around.  Therefore, the more attractive you seem.

And this phenomenon can work in a short period of time.  You can gather a crowd around you quickly when you are truly giving value to the people you encounter.  One way to give value is to smile and share your happiness.

You can study for years all the material out there about how to attract women, and there's no reason why you shouldn't delve deeper into it if it's something you really want to excel at, but it doesn't have to be that complicated.  Try smiling.  :D

Then, move on to the next step: Talking to her.

Return from The Value of a Smile to How to Meet Girls.