This is, without a doubt, the most important step in the
process of meeting a girl. If you don't do this, you are
wasting your time.
Remember the lesson my friend taught me? "Women need
physical affection." And yet, many guys don't do this in
their initial conversations with women.
And that is why so many men fail.
What's the Point?
Why do people exist?
I'm not talking about the philosophical reason, here. I'm
talking about the physical reality.
Why do people exist?
We exist because these these little pieces of matter known as
DNA want to exist forever. Over millions of years, they
built themselves vehicles that allow them to travel all around
the Earth and into the future.
We are those vehicles. Our purpose, more than anything
else, is to pass our DNA on to future generations.
That is why people exist.
Now, how exactly is this passage of DNA conducted?
The process involves a considerable amount of touching. So,
how could a person go into an interaction, of which the ultimate
goal is obviously this particular form of touching, and not realize
that there needs to be touching involved?
And yet, so many men do. I used to be this way myself.
In fact, this was probably the hardest lesson for me to learn.
If you do not touch a woman, you cannot arouse her. Period.
You can spout off all the corny descriptions from romance novels you
want, but if you are not willing to touch her you will always hit a
If you just stand there and talk to her and don't touch her, she'll
eventually wonder what's going on. Touch her, and the
message becomes clear.
So, touch her. Send the signal. Don't be ashamed and
don't be afraid. It is, after all, the reason why you exist.
The passing of DNA isn't the only desirable outcome of touch.
Research indicates that affectionate touch is responsible for the
creation of pleasurable neurotransmitters in the brain.
HINT: The more pleasurable neurotransmitters
you can trigger in her brain, the more she will want to be around you.
This is a classic, psychological concept. You want to associate
good feelings with the behaviors you want to continue. If
interacting with you is a behavior you'd like to see her continue
performing, then you need to make her feel good about it...trigger
some neurotransmitters. One powerful way you can do that is
Now, obviously, there are right ways and wrong ways of touching
a person you've just met, but some kind of touch has to be involved
if you want to see the girl again.
Gently placing your hand on her upper arm is a nice, non-threatening
way to initiate touch. She won't be made uncomfortable, but it
will begin to create a sense of closeness. Obviously, you must
be close if you're touching.
Combine this with a slight lean-in to tell her something in a lower
voice, and you're beginning to create a nice feeling of comfort.
Remember, if you show that you're comfortable doing what you're
doing, she will be, too.
Make it seem like your touching her is totally appropriate
and in line with what's going on, and she'll accept it as exactly
that. Then, you'll start to trigger those nice chemicals in her
brain, and soon she'll start wanting or expecting it.
Just know that, regardless of the direction you want to go with things
or how quickly, you are going to have to touch her. No matter what.
The sooner you embrace this idea, the better. Don't let this be
the one thing that stands between you and the barefoot beauty who just
walked into your life.
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